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Saturday, July 25, 2009

Advice On Meeting Women

Advice On Meeting Women

- Where's the best place to meet women?
- Are there places to avoid meeting women?
- What effect does locale have when approaching women?
- What's more important to a woman, a man's looks or his personality?
- What's the key to approaching women?

- How do I know if a woman wants me to approach her?
- How do I psych myself up to approach a woman?
- What do I do if I'm intimidated by women?
- What is the best way to approach a woman?
- What's the best way to stand out at a bar or social gathering?

- How should I approach an especially attractive woman?
- How should I approach a women if she's with friends?
- How should I approach a woman if she's with male friends?
- Can a woman be an effective wingman?

Where's the best place to meet women?


The absolute best place to meet a woman is in your bedroom. Outside of that though, wherever you really feel comfortable, and where your in your powerhouse.

If you love to read books, then meet a woman in a bookstore. If you love to work out and go to the gym, then meet a woman in the gym. If your a social butterfly and you like to go to bars--meet a woman in a bar.

Wherever you feel most comfortable and your most confidant is the best place to meet a woman.

Are there places to avoid meeting women?

Really any place is great for meeting a woman. Especially a place where she normally not "hit on". On the street, at a home improvement centre, even in the supermarket, because women are going to be casual there. And if you approach them in a casual confident manner, they don't feel like you're hitting on them, you're just talking to them.

What effect does locale have when approaching women?

Now, how you approach a woman is completely dictated on actually where you meet them. If you're meeting a woman at a bar or another social gathering -- at a party, something that involves alcohol, usually -- a woman's guard is going to be much higher up than if you met her at, say, a supermarket, or on the street. The approach, no matter what, always has to be one of complete confidence, and not just with your voice and what you say, but actually your body language. And if you're not generally a confident person in life, you really need to train yourself to become more confident. And practice -- you need to practice approaching women.

What's more important to a woman, a man's looks or his personality?

Personality and sense of humour, by far, is more important than looks when it comes to a man meeting a woman. When a man walks into a situation where he sees a woman that he's attracted to, its like a light switch, its like it goes from the on to the off button. With a woman, its different, its like a dimmer. They may not be necessarily attracted to a man physically, they might, but personality and sense of humour, it really will turn that dimmer switch up tremendously, and the woman will slowly begin to fall in love with you.

What's the key to approaching women?

The most important thing to keep in mind when approaching a woman is body language. It doesn't matter what you say to her actually most of the time. How you approach her with your body language is going to speak volumes. If you walk over to her, and you're timid, and you're looking down at the ground and you're insecure and unsure of yourself, the woman is going to pick up on this. However if you walk to her calm and relaxed and confident, she's going to see that as well.

How do I know if a woman wants me to approach her?

You can tell if a woman is interested in you approaching her by her body language and by visual cues. The biggest sign a woman really wants you to approach her is if she looks at you and smiles at you, and she maintains eye contact with you. That is very important. On the male side of that, its crucial that you smile back, and don't look down or break eye contact with her.

Let her do that first. If you break away or look down, its showing that you're timid. So smile back, maintain eye contact. And then, in the next 30 seconds or a minute, go ahead and approach her.

How do I psych myself up to approach a woman?

Even if you're really nervous, and you're not feeling confident when you're approaching a woman, there are three things to keep in mind that will actually help you.

Number one is, no matter how nervous you are, the woman is going to be equally as nervous. Anytime you're in a party situation, everyone is nervous. They're trying to act on their best behaviour, so even if you do something that you think is stupid, she may not even pick up on it.

Which actually takes me to the second point, is that you would be shocked how little people actually care what you say or do because everyone is caught up in their own head. So you might be wearing something, like a hat, that you might feel insecure about and she's not even noticing it when you approach her. You might feel insecure about it but she's not even going to pick up on it.

The third thing is definitely the most important thing, and that's no matter what, regret is worse than rejection when approaching a woman. I cannot tell you how many times I've walked up to a girl and been rejected, but I say to myself, I'm happy because what happens is now I know that I went out there and I tried it. I went after it and she said no. And it probably wasn't even for a personal reason. She wasn't rejecting me, she just was not interested at this time.

Now put that up against when you don't go up to the girl, you don't try to approach her, you don't talk to her. Later that night or the next day you're going to be kicking yourself, asking "Why didn't I at least say hello to that woman?" and that regret will last a lifetime sometimes. So always go up and try to approach a woman because you just never know.

What do I do if I'm intimidated by women?

A good technique to keep in mind in order to help you with the intimidation factor of approaching a woman is to think of it as if you're just meeting a new friend, not as if you're hitting on her. I don't hit on women, this isn't a fistfight--I'm engaging them in conversation. If you had a new guy come into your office, and you went up and introduced yourself to him, you wouldn't be afraid, you wouldn't be timid and intimidated, you would just say "hey", and introduce yourself. It should be the same way when you're meeting a beautiful woman--you're just trying to get to know them as a friend and shouldn't be intimidated.

What is the best way to approach a woman?

As far as approaching a woman, Woody Allen, who is one of my favourite comics, said it best. Which is success is basically 80% showing up. So, as long as you walk up to a woman and you're confident enough to show up and actually say hello to her, you've gone 80% more than most of the guys in the bar in approaching a woman.

What's the best way to stand out at a bar or social gathering?

If you go to a bar or a really big party and there's like hundreds of people there, you want to stand out from the rest of the pack and actually draw a little attention to yourself, especially if you're someone like myself who's not like the type of guy that walks into a place and like every woman turns and is like ooh look he's hot.

That doesn't happen for me; doesn't happen for a lot of guys. So what you do is you use a prop of some sort, an article of clothing, that will draw attention to you. For example, I actually have a hat which says regal beagle, which is the bar from 'Three's Company'. And both guys and girls get a kick out of seeing that because its sort of a conversation starter, and they come and say oh that's so funny, and they talk and it breaks the ice. A great thing a friend of mine used to do is he would actually go to a bar dressed in a robe and pyjamas.

And of course, everyone would walk up to him and be like what are you doing in a robe and pyjamas? And he'd tell them he was going to a sleepover party later that night and he was stopping off at the bar ahead of time to get a drink. Of course he never would up going to the party because he was there and there was no party. And he was meeting so many women, that, you know, he scored tons of digits, and he was having a grand old time right there. So, using a prop or an article of clothing can really help you stand out at a bar or party, and separate you from the other men in the bar.

How should I approach an especially attractive woman?

There is a difference when you try to approach the most beautiful woman in the room, as opposed to all the other women in the room. The beautiful woman is obviously going to be the object of affection of a lot of guys there. So, a lot of men are going to walk up and use cheesy lines like "Oh, you look so beautiful tonight" and "Well that dress makes you look fantastic." She hears this all the time.

So this is really a good situation for you to use the PD, in which you say something that's a slight putdown, such as "Excuse me, but I think there's something in your teeth." This will make her feel much more self conscious, and she'll come down to your level a bit. Another great thing that you can do is actually kind of joke about the fact that other men are coming up to her, and hitting on her.

So if you say something after you see some guy go up to her and being shut down, you could come over, maybe thirty seconds later and say something like "So, are you just going to be turning down all these guys tonight, or do I have a chance." Or even "Hey, there's so many losers in this room tonight. Can I hang around and watch you shoot down another one?" Something that's playful and that you can really get the conversation going with her, and make fun of the fact that you are in social situation that men are coming up to her, and sort of buddy up to her that way is the best way to approach a beautiful woman.

How should I approach a women if she's with friends?

The best way to approach a woman if she's in a group of women is to definitely make friends or talk up the women you are not interested in first. Because what's going to happen is women tend to be very catty in groups. Especially if there is one girl who tends to get hit on all the time, her other friends might be jealous, and so they'll literally try and make it difficult for you to try to talk to actually talk to her.

So the best way to do that is just make friends with one of the girls that you think probably isn't the centre of attention. Another thing you might actually do is ignore the woman that you want and make her envious of your conversation with the other women, almost leaving her out of the conversation. And that will make her want to meet you more. It will almost be a reverse thing where she will actually be hitting on you. That is definitely the best way to approach a woman if she's in a group of friends.

How should I approach a woman if she's with male friends?

Now, one of the greatest things to do at a bar is to actually not approach a single woman, but approach a woman who's in a mixed group of men and women. Because this social situation is very comfortable to her, she's probably with a group of her friends. What happens is, most men are intimidated when they see a woman talking to a man. Chances are if she's in a bar, its not her boyfriend, its just one of her friends and they're there together. So what you do is, you actually go up and approach the group and talk to the man first.

Get his trust, talk about sports, talk about something other than actually women, and use that friendship with him to slowly let him introduce you to the girl. This is actually one of the best ways to meet a woman in an honest and genuine fashion, but approaching women when they are with their male friends.

Can a woman be an effective wingman?

I would say if you are going to use a wingman at all, a woman is an excellent choice because what happens in the bar dynamic or in a social setting, if a woman sees you talking to another woman it makes you more desirable to them. I mean if you literally go with the basic thought of "wow, this guy is talking to an attractive woman - he must have something going on".

Immediately you have instant credit with women in the bar by having a female wingman. So if a woman is working for you and helping chat you up as your wingman, especially when she is talking to women and says how great you are, its fantastic for you and she is really going to help you in meeting women

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Advice For Men On Talking To Women

Advice For Men On Talking To Women

- What's the most important thing to look for before approaching a woman?
- What should I say to a woman I'm interested in when I meet her?
- Is it OK to use pick-up lines?
- Does it help to brag about myself a little when talking to women?
- Should I ask a woman if she has a boyfriend?

- What do I do if I find out a woman I'm talking to has a boyfriend?
- How do I make a woman feel comfortable when I'm talking to her?
- What do I do if I run out of things to say to a woman?


What's the most important thing to look for before approaching a woman?

Something that a lot of guys overlook when they're approaching a woman and what they should look for is the ring on her left hand on her ring finger. If she's wearing an engagement ring or a wedding ring, why would you want to approach her unless you're interested in committing adultery which is not up my alley.

So look for that ahead of time and you could save yourself a lot of time. I cant tell you how many times I've had friends go out, chat up a woman for 30 minutes only to see that she's got a wedding ring on her finger. So make that simple choice ahead of time and you can save yourself a lot of grief.

What should I say to a woman I'm interested in when I meet her?

When you're approaching a woman and you're trying to get the conversation going, just definitely use the objects that are around you for the conversation. If you're in a bar, ask her what drink she's having and if she's enjoying it. If you're in a bookstore, ask her what book she's reading. You know, keep it very simple and the conversation will grow off that.

Now if you're not comfortable in general with talking with women, then you should probably have a list of five to ten things beforehand. Practice and prep it. Go on the internet and read about a couple interesting stories that you read that day, and read them over while you're actually going to the bar, or the bookstore, what have you, if you're going to be in a social setting. And have that information on hand when you meet a woman. Have it in the back of your mind, and you can bring that conversation up.


Is it OK to use pick-up lines?

One of the questions I get asked more than any other is 'Are pick-up lines effective in order to meet women?' And the answer is it really depends on your location. But if you're in a bar, I think its actually really helpful, and the best pick-up line that I've ever used is "Hi. My name is Archie." Now, you can use your name instead of mine, but it definitely works because you're just going up to the girl, and introducing yourself, and showing the confidence that you have.

Now as far as "cheesy pick-up lines" go, those can be effective as well, especially if you think the girl has a sense of humour. One of my best friends walked up to a table of women, and he saw a girl and said "Excuse me, do you mind if I hit on you for a while?" She cracked up, and he actually ended up marrying her because she had a sense of humour about it. So I think pick-up lines, if they're are funny and cheeky, can definitely work to your advantage.

Does it help to brag about myself a little when talking to women?

As far as like building yourself up and bragging when you first meet a woman, or singing your own praises, I definitely would say that you should probably avoid that. The one thing in my experience and especially watching all the dates on Blind Date, the thing that really attracts women is when a guy is passionate about something. When a guy is passionate about something it doesn't matter if he's really successful.

If you're an incredible poet and you're passionate about it women will pick up on that, so you don't have to have a lot of money. You don't have to be incredibly successful in what you're doing as long as you're really driven and passionate by it. Women really see this and they're attracted by it. So

I don't think you really have to talk yourself up, brag or say how much money you make or what kind of car you drive, I think that's all real clich├ęs. Definitely there are women that are attracted to that, hence the City banker who only really cares how much money you make. But these aren't women you really want to end up with anyway so you should definitely avoid bragging.


Should I ask a woman if she has a boyfriend?

When you first meet a woman and you're not sure if she has a boyfriend or not, its actually not a bad idea to jokingly drop that into the conversation. For example, if you're in a bar situation and she's sitting at the bar and there's an empty stool next to her and you've been talking to her for 20 or 30 seconds, you can jokingly say "Oh, is your boyfriend going to come over here and beat me up because I'm talking to you?" Instantly you'll find out because shell laugh.

If she doesn't she'll laugh and say "No no no, I don't have a boyfriend", and if she does shell make a comment right there that she has a boyfriend and you can easily move on and not waste time talking to her.


What do I do if I find out a woman I'm talking to has a boyfriend?

Now I have a definite philosophy when I go out into a social situation, a bar or a party. I definitely want to meet a single woman that is available and I can potentially date. So if I find out that she has a boyfriend or a husband Ill talk to her and Ill engage in conversation, but Ill keep it very limited, because my time is very precious to me and I only have a few hours a night.

If I'm going to go out on a Friday night I have a couple of hours to try to meet a woman that I would like to date. So if I find out that someone has a boyfriend or a husband Ill talk to them and very politely say you know it was nice meeting you and move on, because I'm really not interested in these situations of making friends, I would like to find someone to date.


How do I make a woman feel comfortable when I'm talking to her?

When you're chatting with a woman, you definitely want to make her feel comfortable at all times. There are some very simple things you can do to make a woman feel comfortable.

Number one again is your body language. Definitely be aware of your body language. Be relaxed and confident n yourself and it will actually come off to her and shell be able to sense that and become comfortable. If you're nervous and jittery, she might be nervous and jittery as well.

Another good thing to do to make her comfortable is mirror her body language. If she is leaning in towards you, lean slightly towards her as well. Mirror her hand gestures. These simple things will make her more relaxed and comfortable when you're talking to her.


What do I do if I run out of things to say to a woman?

If you're talking to a woman and you run out of things to say to her that is the ideal opportunity for you to ask her for her number. Excuse yourself and say that you have friends at the bar that you have to get back to and ask her for her number.

There's no point in dragging on a conversation if you run out of things to say to her. End it right there and get her number. If she gives it to you fantastic, if not then thank her for her time and move on.


Is it best to be with friends when you're going out to meet women?

When you go out to meet women, its usually best to have friends you can fall back on and talk to from time to time. However, there'll be situations when you'll just go it alone. This is actually an excellent opportunity for someone who is not comfortable talking to women, because what its going to do is force them to meet new people. T

hey wont have their friends to talk to and they'll actually be compelled to go out and meet new people. This is excellent training, even if you're nervous. It's eventually going to allow you to feel more comfortable around people and you will be able to score those digits later on.

How do I cope with nervousness when I'm talking to a woman?

If you find yourself in a situation where you're talking to a woman and you find that you're nervous or uncomfortable or edgy, definitely do not call attention to it. Calling attention to nervousness is really not going to service you in any way, especially because the woman is probably not even going to notice herself.

She's going to be nervous too, she's going to be concerned about how she looks, how she's coming off. So don't worry about your nervousness. Just try to be as relaxed and calm as possible. And if you're not, just continue with the conversation. Whatever comes out of your mouth is fine, just keep the conversation going and the flow will eventually get you back to the place where you feel more confident and less nervous.

How can I succesfully transition from talking to one woman to another?

There definitely are situations where you'll be chatting with a group of women and you are interested in one, and then as you're talking you'll become more attracted to another one. She might have an incredible personality, make you laugh and you might be like, Oh my god, I want to meet this girl. If that's the case, then definitely go with the flow. Because what will happen is that if both women are single and interested, there'll actually be a little rivalry going on and they'll both be seeking out your attention. So its really a win-win situation for you.

Should I try to kiss a woman the first time I meet her?

Whether or not you kiss a girl the first time you meet her is entirely dependent on the situation. If you meet a girl in a social situation, such as a party or a bar and there is alcohol involved, and if she is a little tipsy and her body language is showing you that she is interested in you, by all means you should try to kiss her.

If you are in a situation such as a supermarket, you're on the street or in a bookstore, it's obviously going to be a little different. However, if she still telling you with her body language and with her words that she is interested in you, then a little kiss wouldn't hurt at all either. What you really need to do is look at her body language, see if the tell tale signs are there: Is she leaning into you when she is talking to you? Is she touching you a lot? If she is touching your arm a lot and if she is touching your hair, there are clear signs that she is interested in you in a physical way.

What do I do if I realize I'm not interested in a woman after I approach her?

If you're realizing when talking with a woman that you are no longer interested in her, you should definitely, by all means, leave that situation. But do it in a very tactful manner. Tell her that you have to get back to your friends and that it was a pleasure meeting her. You won't be lying. It truly is a pleasure, because obviously you were attracted to her across the room enough for you to approach her.

After you spoke to her, you might not have been attracted on an intellectual level, and that's fine, but you really were attracted to her at one point. The fact that you were able to walk up to her, approach her, is great. That's great on your part, so it really was a pleasure for you to do that. You wouldn't be lying and you'll also be able to go on your way and talk to the next woman.

How do I cope with being rejected by a woman after meeting her?

If you're talking to a woman and she no longer wants to talk to you, and she moves away or she rejects you, do not let this ruin your evening in the least. In fact, you should really build on it. You were able to go up to her and talk to her and that's a great thing.

Remember, in the back of your mind, rejection is so much better than regret. You went for it, you went out there, you went out on a limb, you spoke with her. You never have to wonder, "What if?", you got your answer. So what if she rejected you? It could've been for a million reasons; don't take it personally. She could've got fired from work that day, she could have a boyfriend she's still in love with - there are a million reasons. Just buck up, look around the room, and find the next woman you're interested in, and go and talk to her.

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Wednesday, July 1, 2009

Frienditis-how to make yourself into boyfriend material

Frienditis: How To Make Yourself Into Boyfriend Material

Frienditis: How To Make Yourself Into Boyfriend Material : Frienditis: How To Make Yourself Boyfriend Material - We show you how to avoid slipping into platonic relationships with people you actually fancy with advice given by Love Doctor Sam Van Rood in his book Teach Yourself Flirting.Frienditis: How To Make Yourself Boyfriend Material - We show you how to avoid slipping into platonic relationships with people you actually fancy with advice given by Love Doctor Sam Van Rood in his book Teach Yourself Flirting.


Step 1: Symptoms

So how do you know if you are suffering frienditis?
Does this sound familiar...?

You have lots of female friends but no girlfriend.

And you have no chance of starting something with your female friends, as you just don't feel its right to make the first move. Sounds like you need my help to cure your frienditis!

Step 2: Revealing your potential

Relationships can live or die by the first impression you make. If you give off a friendly first impression, it may ruin your chances of being seen as a potential partner.

The key to turning your luck around is to change the way you relate to women; and to approach first encounters with new people by being funny, confident yet enigmatic.

after all, being nice is fine to charm your grandma's friends into giving you more tea and biscuits, but women of your age require a little bit more edge.

Step 3: Beef up your body language

Whether converting a friendship to a relationship, or just approaching new relationships in a different way, you need to rethink your body language. As 93% of communication is non-verbal, a more masculine and sexy body language tells potential dates that you are a good man to be with.

A good start is to become a man's man! Take up a martial art; like Krav Maga. Women love a man who can handle himself, and knowing how to disarm a knife wielding mugger, or yob with a baseball bat gives you that indefinable masculine confidence.

Also, giving off masculine body language is something you can learn. Push back your shoulders, lift your chest, stand with your feet wide apart, and make confident eye contact. Hook your thumbs in your front jean pockets, with your fingers out. This makes you look confident and shows off your assets. Women will notice the difference.

Step 4: Think Dirty

What's the difference between friends and boyfriends? Boyfriends think about having sex with their women! To be boyfriend material you need to think dirty.

Next time you are with someone you fancy, imagine slowly undressing her. Then, think in detail about exactly what you would like to do next.

What you are thinking is reflected in your body language – your sexual intent will start to become clear, catapulting you into the potential boyfriend zone.

Step 5: Dating good friends of the opposite sex

Dating someone you know already as a friend is difficult, as you have been placed in that friendship box, and you run the risk of losing a good friend. If you really want to convert a friendship into a relationship, proceed with great care - it's important to ascertain in the first case whether they fancy you. Do you actually have a flirtatious relationship, or is all the flirting one way?

Things to remember:-

Don't risk a friendship if they are in a happy relationship, or don't want a partner.

if you still want to declare your undying love, do it when your friend will be drinking more than you. If you are more sober than your friend then you can maintain your composure and find out the truth. Blaming a moment of indiscretion on alcohol won't lose you any face.

f they clearly don't respond to your advances, move on and try to achieve closure - there's no point in lusting after a love affair that just isn't going to happen.

Congratulations - you've learned new ways to avoid the "just good friends" trap and are ready to be a manly man in every situation!


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